Showing posts with label Appreciation. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Appreciation. Show all posts

Monday, December 1, 2014

Enraptured

Most Sundays I skip the main service with its contemporary worship music, opting instead to sit with the little old ladies in the chapel where we sing traditional hymns.  Yesterday morning, however, I sat in the auditorium where I could fully experience the gospel of Legacy Five.  Why I looked so forward to their performance I do not know, as this was the first time I had heard their music.

While the rest of the congregation focused their attention on the vocal harmony, my ear was tuned to the piano.  My eyes were drawn to Trey Ivey, a young man playing with amazing ease.  At times, I had the impression that his hands were working in a mechanical way, as though he were resisting the impulse to jazz it up a bit.  Early in the performance, his body was fairly still and he maintained a pleasant but fairly nondescript facial expression.  By the end, his body swayed and emotion played across his face.  He seemed to be infused with energy as the tempo increased.  There seemed to be more trills as time passed, and I wondered whether he ever played the same piece exactly the same.  He was not just making music with his instrument.  He was living through it!


I found myself holding my hands over my heart, as though to capture the warmth spreading from within.  Goose flesh spread over my arms, legs and back.  Tears were close at hand, though I could not have told you why.  I was simply enraptured as I recognized a talent that I have not encountered in the 21 years since my father died.  I felt that I was a child again, watching my dear daddy play his beloved organ.  I could sit there for hours just watching and listening!  In fact, the night that electric organ was delivered, our entire family did just that.

Without formal training, my father had never learned or desired to still his body as he played.  He, too, ceased to be a piano or organ player.  After a few bars of any song, he was one with his instrument.  He would sway this way and lean that way, seemingly leaping from one end of the bench to the other as his feet worked the pedals.  His hands and feet had a life of their own, and he never played a song exactly the same twice!  

I recalled the stories I'd heard as a child.  Stories of Gordon Doty, the musical prodigy.  I remember my grandmother telling me that they learned of his talent when one day, at a young age and with no training, my dad sat down at the old pump organ in the parlor and started playing.  Nobody but my dad ever could coax a note out of that beast!

My dad told me about how he had learned to play the organ by sitting on a bench and working the foot pedals while his mentor worked the keys.  He had no formal training to speak of.  The training he did receive was less than what the average middle class family could provide a child of average ability today.  But my father was blessed with far greater than average ability, and his mother with far less than a middle class income.  He was also quite hard of hearing, almost completely deaf in one ear and with moderate hearing loss in the other.  His early experience with hearing aids had been quite negative, and so he went through life hearing very little.  He was superb at lip reading, and so most people never knew the extent of the impairment.  I used to wonder quite often where life would have taken my dad if he had been born 30 years later.

One of my favorite stories from my father's childhood was about the time he was uninvited to play for church because he was jazzing up the music too much.  (My dad told some tall tales, but I always believed that one because I would frequently lose all track of the melody as I let myself be drawn into what my dad was playing.)  As the story goes, the only person to play in his absence was the pastor's wife, and her piano skills were rather elementary.  Therefore, after a period of time that was considered to be enough punishment (of the congregation!), my father was asked to resume playing for church.  He was asked not to jazz it up so much, and he was inclined to agree just to gain access to play again.  Until the next time someone complained about his fancy playing and it was time for him to take another break.

As I sit with these memories, it occurs to me that it has been a very long time since I have existed within them.  I certainly have not shared them with my children.  Today I felt my father's presence more keenly than I have in nearly 20 years.  It is time to introduce my children to their grandfather as more than a shadowy, distant relative.  I have no recordings of my father's voice or his music, but now I know where to find something reasonably close.


For a taste of the music that took me back, you can watch yesterday's performance for yourself.  If you close your eyes, you may just  hear my dad's fingers tickling those ivory keys!

Legacy Five at The People's Church

Wednesday, March 12, 2014

Bunches of Thanks for my Dietitian

Today is Registered Dietitian Nutritionist Day, and therefore a day on which I want my Registered Dietitian to know just how much I appreciate her.*  Of course, I should be letting her know that anyway!  Just like appreciation for mothers should not be held back until Mother's Day or appreciation for fathers held for Father's Day, I should be thanking my dietitian routinely for making my life easier.  Still, I know that I am guilty of  uttering "thanks" at the end of a phone call in a way that is more reflective of habit than a heartfelt sharing of appreciation.  Plus everyone likes to get a little bit of extra love every now and then!

So what awesome show of appreciation did I plan for my dietitian so she could feel some love before sitting down at her desk for another day of helping parents figure out how to meet their kids' nutritional needs without much more than sugar and air?

Not         a          thing.


And it's not because I didn't know that today was special.  It's because life was busy.  I was focused on my kids' schedules - their school stuff, medical stuff and extra activities, along with my own version of each.  At the same time, I was also trying to do what my dietitian has taught me even when all I want is to serve my kids a gourmet meal of hot dogs while I dive into a sleeve of Thin Mints®.  Or maybe it's just because I still have not learned the lesson on punctuality - or the ones about run on sentences or punctuation, for that matter - that my 8th grade English teacher just could not make me learn.  (Sorry, Mrs. Hammen!  I know you tried.)   But the day is not done, so I still have time to throw together something awesome(ish).


It is now my pleasure to present...


Just a few of the bunches of reasons I appreciate our dietitian*  



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  1. She is always just a phone call or voicemail message away.
  2. When she answers the phone, she does so with a smile - even if what she is really thinking is "Oh, Dear Lord, what can she possibly want this time?!"  (And yes, I have called her so frequently that she often knows it is me before she answers.)
  3. She doesn't laugh at my questions, ridiculous as they may be.
  4. At our first appointment, she looked silently at the huuuuuuuuuuuuge list of allergens we must avoid and resisted the urge to blurt out "What does he eat?!"  Instead, she suggested that we ignore the overwhelming list of allergens and focus on the much shorter list of foods that are safe.
  5. She doesn't yell at me for feeding my kids too much sugar.  Not even when I told her about my "Just Sugar" cookies!
  6. When I ask her if the 9 syllable ingredient that I can't even pronounce is safe, she often knows exactly what I am talking about and whether it is worth taking the chance.  When she doesn't, she takes the time to find out.
  7. Samples!  (Need I say more?)
  8. She doesn't yell at me about not eating my greens.  Instead, she works with me to ensure that I am getting the necessary micronutrients without making me feel even more self-conscious about my persnickety eating habits.
  9. She tallies the number of calories my children need to grow and develop properly, and then retallies after each growth spurt or weight gain/loss.
  10. She helps me review the options presented by the allergist to decide which food to trial next.
  11. She recognizes that what looks good on paper may not work perfectly in real life, and she helps me adjust feeding and meal plans accordingly.
  12. I think, after all this, that it goes without saying, but I'm going to say it anyway.  My Registered Dietitian is just plain awesome!




*Technically "them" rather than "her" because I actually have two dietitians that I can and do call on as needed!  But they are both women, and therefore a "her" will suffice.  I have no doubt that "they" will understand the need for me to find a way to use fewer words!